That is why you sometimes see in negotiated agreements an explicit term that the parties “draw a line under the past” or a similar phrase. Sometimes this is not explicitly stated, but it is nevertheless an implicit part of the agreed agreement, which works successfully in practice. One way or another, what does it mean to “draw a line”? What commitment does it impose on the signatories of the agreement? Should you try to explicitly include it in your billing terms or not include it? Here are some templates and checklists I`ve created and used. You can download them. The documents are in PDF format. Participants are jointly responsible for the ombudsman`s fees and expenses. In most mediation cases, the responsibility for intermediation costs and costs rests with those involved, who help them to cooperate more effectively. In other words, it should boil down to a relatively simple question: if the other party to mediation is doing what it has agreed, can you trust yourself and the process enough to swallow (at least externally and only under certain conditions) your dissatisfaction may be entirely justified in the face of past events? Or do you feel so strong about the situation that you are absolutely obliged to seek a formal solution, regardless of the damage it will cause to the working relationship? If that`s really your position, some might say that you shouldn`t make it clear that you`re just wasting time on everything and rather that it would be better to continue your mismanagement and seize your chances there. But before you go down this path, think about these two points: first, you can`t really be sure of your position until you`ve heard what the other party has to say in mediation. Second, if all that lies between your employer and an effective solution to a conflict is your refusal to look forward and not backwards, you may find that, regardless of your personal exercise of rights and the injustice of the case, you have become the problem.
When you are trying to convey a conflict in the workplace, the most difficult part is often to push the parties to focus on the future of that relationship, not on the recent past that leads to its collapse.